One of the keys to attracting women is having a strong sense of your direction in life. If you have developed your aspirations, and have a fulfilling present, she’ll notice your energy and enthusiasm – your passion for living. This is where the type of confidence that women seek comes from – a foundation of certainty that you’re living the life you want, and you know where you’re going with it. READ MORE »
Study: Affirmation & Success
According to a study by psychologist Danu Anthony Stinson, “affirmation seems to provide a psychological buffer” that lets us put aside social fears and anxieties.
There is a takeaway for those interested in gaining confidence and success with women: by building up and focusing on values (other than our relationships with women) that are central to our identity, we READ MORE »
Be Present-Minded to Attract Women
We men – the intelligent ones in particular – can be calculating, analytical, and cold. We try to get inside a woman’s mind, thinking multiple steps ahead of her, as if we can predict what she’ll say next and how we should behave in turn. Treating women like part of a game we’re playing, we READ MORE »
Should You Buy Flashy Toys to Attract Women?
In a social science study, we learn that driving a sports car may attract women interested in short-term relationships, but not marriage:
According to the researchers, women found a man who chose to purchase a flashy luxury product (such as a Porsche) more desirable than the same man who purchased a non-luxury item (such as a Honda Civic). However, there was a catch: Although women found the flashy guys more desirable for a date, the man with the Porsche was not preferred as a marriage partner. Women inferred from a man’s flashy spending that he was interested in uncommitted sex.
That said, you’re probably not going to experience very much satisfaction knowing that women are attracted to you for your things. It’s much more satisfying to know that women are attracted to you because of something more internal about yourself, like your intelligence, humor and wit.
Read the cited study’s full article here.
Break the Rules to Appear Powerful
In a Science Daily article, Breaking Rules Makes You Seem Powerful, we learn how the outward signs of violating social norms and generally acting like you don’t care can make you appear more powerful. Smiling less, interrupting others, and putting your feet on the table READ MORE »
Approaching Women
When you approach an attractive woman, what thoughts are running through your mind? One of the tricks for long-term success is to learn the right state of mind to be in when approaching a woman. Women are great at reading body language, but are not mind readers. Yet, when you approach a woman with positive intentions and confidence, your facial expression and body language reflect this, and she picks up on it.
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Your Social Network
Your social network is not about meeting women as much as it is about building yourself into the type of man that attracts women naturally through enjoying life with other men, having a life outside of dating and women, and creating social value and social proof that women will notice.
The friends and family we spend time with likely influence our thoughts – an in turn, our behavior – a lot more than many of us are willing to admit. The good news is READ MORE »
Becoming the Entrepreneur that Women Want
If women are attracted to entrepreneurs and leaders, how does someone like the engineer or programmer even get started?
Aside from making a move to leadership within your current organization, one of the best ways to escape your career as an engineer – moving up into a leadership role – is part-time, on the web, using an outsourcing tool like oDesk, Elance, or Freelancer.com. These sites allow you to risk a small amount of cash, outsourcing to a continent where labor is cheap. There will be communication difficulties that you’ll need to put up with – a tradeoff when seeking cheap labor – but it’s worth it if you can’t afford to spend much. READ MORE »
Why Programmers Don’t Attract Women
Women seek fun, spontaneity, leadership, and charisma in a man. Programmers learn, through their profession, that predictability, routine, and certainty are virtues. Through their interaction with the computer, developers (coders) engage their logical mind, solving problems. A programmer’s communication with the computer is blunt, direct, and literal. A disconnect between work and life is created; it is so great that it is almost insurmountable for the professional programmer READ MORE »